FORGIVENESS IN INFIDELITY INTERVENSIONS
Keywords:
, forgiveness, infidelity, intervention, working modelAbstract
Interpersonal hurt caused by an extramarital affair
may produce anger, bitterness, conflict, or depression, and the
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client may suffer twice without treatment: because of the client may suffer twice without treatment: because of the original offence, and because of the resentment toward the original offence, and because of the resentment toward the offender. offender. ForgivenessForgiveness iis a s a therapy interventiontherapy intervention that may help that may help overcoming and resolving interpersonal hurt in case of overcoming and resolving interpersonal hurt in case of infidelity. No matter how the partners respond to infidelity, infidelity. No matter how the partners respond to infidelity, the the process of forgivenessprocess of forgiveness should include such aspects as should include such aspects as accepting responsibility, apology, extendiaccepting responsibility, apology, extending forgiveness, ng forgiveness, humility, remorse, and softening. humility, remorse, and softening. Unfortunately, neither Unfortunately, neither therapists, nor religious therapists use therapists, nor religious therapists use forgiveness forgiveness interventionintervention on a regular basis because they lack one or more on a regular basis because they lack one or more of the following: an of the following: an adequate conceptualisation of forgiveness adequate conceptualisation of forgiveness (acce(acceptance, condoning, excusing, pardoning, reconciliation), ptance, condoning, excusing, pardoning, reconciliation), a a working model of forgiveness working model of forgiveness (it is important to make the (it is important to make the proper choice among the tens of models), or a proper choice among the tens of models), or a rationale for rationale for forgiveness intervention forgiveness intervention (particularly client’s rationales)(particularly client’s rationales). . The The paper suggestspaper suggests a a forgivenessforgiveness--based infidelity interventionbased infidelity intervention that benefits from Esther Perel’s (2016) and other researchers’ that benefits from Esther Perel’s (2016) and other researchers’ findings.findings.
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