• Laura Elena Nastasa Faculty of Psychology and Educational Sciences, Transilvania University of Brasov
  • Mihaela Cimpu School Center for Inclusive Education of Brasov
  • Anca Daniela Farcas Faculty of Medicine, Iuliu Hatieganu University of Medicine and Pharmacy of Cluj- Napoca


emotional support, emotional intelligence, support group,


Parents of children with disabilities may be in a great deadlock and the way they
react is very different from one person to another. Thus, various emotional states
and reactions may occur, such as shock, confusion, anxiety, uncertainty,
frustration, distrust of diagnosis, denial, anger, fury, despair, negotiation, fear,
self-blame, accusation of destiny and / or the others, isolation, rejection,
depression, acceptance, resignation, and struggle. Often these emotions are not
recognized and expressed, which creates multiple difficulties that can be
overcome by improving human relationships in a supportive psychotherapeutic
intervention. This research aims at identifying their needs and emotional states.
The results obtained highlight the need to implement support groups for these
parents, groups that focus on the development of emotional abilities and on the
most effective strategies for maintaining constructive interpersonal relationships
in the process of integration of children with special educational needs.


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